By Nicole Thomas

Mothers of unborn babies should know that whatever they are feeling, baby feels as well. Feelings of happiness, stress or anxiety are carried over to baby, so maybe this is the perfect time for that first relationship talk. Talking to baby will strengthen the mother fetus bond that exists from the very first moment life is conceived.

Un-wanted babies feel the strain as the mother tries to ignore them, wish her pregnancy away or contemplate abortion. How this will influence later relationships the child may have still is a mystery, but it is worth thinking about. The opposite situation where mum welcomes baby in her with soothing words, sounds and even music, lead to a strong bond between the two of them - a happy relationship to build on.

The relationships that toddlers will invest in are purely based on trust. Whilst a lot of youngsters will gladly tolerate hugs from about any person, most will be timid in their first approach, waiting to establish trust first How and when toddlers form relationships will not necessarily be carried over into adulthood relations, especially if they get good guidance on what they are feeling as little persons.

Parents that maybe had no relationship guidance themselves in their early years may refrain from touching each other in front of their children. The message sent to these accepting little ones may lead them to think it wrong to show affection and love through touch. As this is the norm they grow up with, they may end up having difficulties in expressing love in their own grown up love relations where the opposite is expected from their partners.

Teenagers are notorious for closing up when emotions and feelings are concerned. Behind closed doors they contemplate and brood over their feelings inside them often lead by advice from friends only. A classic mistake parents make at this stage is to criticize behavior that is seen as wrong too harshly and without asking why the teen reacted in the way they did. By listening attentively to them, a bond will form where your teen knows it is ok to talk freely to you about their feelings.

Having good relationship advice and talks during the teen years will support them into a natural transgression into adults.

School leavers are expected to form natural relationships with peers as well as younger adults or even their own kids. Many children that grew up without relationship guidance will shed most of their preconceived ideas at this stage, replacing them with relation skills based on personal experiences and ideas on how they react best in relations to others. These could be testing times for them, as romance seems to take up a lot of their time at this stage of life.

Finding yourself emotionally ill equipped may cause problems at work as well. Schools and parents often forget to share their knowledge of working relations with youngsters causing them to lag behind, as they are unable to form appropriate relationships at work.

Retirement brings a whole new set of relationships as the retired must now re connect to loved ones that are not used to having them around for such long periods of time.

It seems then that you are never too young or too old to have a good relationship talk.